QUESTION: Could you explain what is true religion, as compared to the wrong attitude? Where does the belief in God come in if you don't feel He is a help. I just don't quite follow this...
ANSWER: You will feel that God is a help when you come to true religion, after abandoning the crutch, but in a completely different sense. Now you need God's help because you make yourself helpless. Then you will feel God's help because you will perceive the perfection of the universe and its laws; the strength of them, of which you are an integral, contributing part. You will feel that you are the driving force of your life. You can help yourself if you really want to, if you are ready to sacrifice something. Let us say, you want a happiness in a certain direction -- and this is not some vague feeling, but a clearly defined goal -- you will seek, and find, in what way you have so far prevented this happiness; and what you can do now to obtain it by your own endeavors. You will understand what this demands of you and it will be up to you to either fulfill these demands, because you decide it is worthwhile, or you will abstain from it. But then there will not be a gnawing feeling in your soul that you are a neglected and unjustly treated child. This is spiritual and emotional maturity and true religion. God's role is not to provide you with things you do not wish to obtain yourself. But the God Consciousness is that His world is so wonderful that you have so much more power than you have heretofore realized, if only you set it in motion; if you remove your own obstacles, blocks: greed, laziness, cowardice.
QUESTION: I understand. But how can we go about it? This God image is so imbedded in us since so many decades of false attitude. Wouldn't it mean that if we go away from this concept, the prayer would change too? The whole attitude would change? Everything would change?
ANSWER: Yes, of course. But you see, my child, you cannot say, "Now I will go away from my God image." It is not something you can decide in your mind. It does not work that way. The emotional impact of it would remain if you try to change it by a mere outer decision. In order to make the inner decision, the procedure has to be the same as it has always been in this work. The way to go about it is to find these attitudes and to understand them deeper and fuller. If this is really done, not just superficially, you will all have a surprise in finding to what preposterous means you have gone in order to forcefully maintain infanthood, and for what specific reasons. Once you analyze and understand certain emotional behavior patterns, you will realize how preposterous they are, how incompatible with your conscious belief, how contrary to your own bests interests, how logically impossible, because they are always mutually in conflict with contrary trends. After seeing and understanding all this, the change happens organically, by itself, as it were. A certain length of time of self-observation is necessary in order to gain full insight and then be able to change. You cannot begin by saying, "Now I shall get rid of my God image." The only way is to find these subtle and unobtrusive emotional reactions. They are not obvious, nor strong. Nor are they completely unconscious. They are there, but so subtle, and you are so used to them that you do not even see anything amiss. To find them and analyze them is the first step, and then to see them in the light of this discussion. This will help you to eliminate and dissolve the God image, because your attitude will naturally change. You will, for instance, find what your expectations really are, how you inwardly complain. You will find what you, yourself, could do in order to make these expectations a reality; and you will get to understand why you did not do so. This could be the procedure.
QUESTION: One of the last words of Christ was, "Father, Thy will be done." Taken as an example, this could have been obedience, or it could have been freedom.
ANSWER: Exactly. As I said before, the words are often the same. Truth can so easily be misinterpreted because the essence of truth is in the willingness and capacity to understand. For example, by what I discussed tonight, you could easily say that there can be no Grace of God. If man is supposed to be free and independent, then how does Grace come in? He would not even need it. This is not true. Grace does exist. But no words can convey the truth of the concept of Grace, unless you have first reached this inner true religious experience. When you no longer need grace as a substitute for your own weakness, when you do not make an asset out of your weakness, then will you first become strong. For a while you will at first live without any understanding of Grace. But then the true Grace concept will dawn upon you. In other words, this interim state of aloneness has first to be gone through. The great mystics designate it as the "Dark Night."
QUESTION: From what you say, it becomes clear that religion is a matter of the development of each individual soul to its optimum point through growth by way of search and self-realization. However, the churches have played a dominant role for many years. It would seem, therefore, that the church function will eventually fall away.
ANSWER: Yes, indeed, it will. When more people follow a path of self-recognition, of growing, and of developing their own resources, they will no longer need authority. And for those who are then not far enough in their development, human law will suffice to protect society from the untamed and destructive elements. The truly divine can only function in free souls, and this will happen. The whole trend of history points in that direction.
QUESTION: You told us about companionship and interrelationship. At times, one has to be alone. What is the right and wrong kind?
ANSWER: There is a simple answer to that, although not easily detectable. When you investigate your emotional reactions and you want companionship out of fear of being alone, then the need for companionship springs, at least partly, from a wrong motive. If you want aloneness out of a fear to involve yourself, a fear of people because the withdrawal aspect in you is rather strong, then the striving for aloneness springs, again at least partly, from a wrong motive. In other words, both can be healthy as well as unhealthy. An integrated human being needs both and both for constructive reasons, rather than in order to avoid something he fears. The answer which holds true can only come from an ardent self-examination.
QUESTION: I try to form words to express my inner conflicts. The words seem exaggerated. How can I keep my words level with that which I find in my search?
ANSWER: First of all, you will have to understand the reason for this exaggeration and dramatization of yourself. Once you understand that, the need will lessen. There will be a more proportionate relationship between the one and the other. Again, the remedy is not to use self-discipline to stop it. Even if you should succeed, another (perhaps more harmful) symptom will come forth. Rather, use such manifestations as the useful symptoms they are.
QUESTION: Very often it is very easy for one subconscious to talk to another. But there are times when there exists such a strong barrier that you cannot penetrate. The other person asks for the answer, yet he doesn't listen and you can't reach him.
ANSWER: The person who asks the question wants only a qualified answer. He does not want an answer he finds unpleasant. This causes an inner resistance so strong that he cannot hear. He cannot absorb what is being said to him. The attitude toward a person in this frame of mind is not to try to force the issue. The more inner force exists in you to penetrate the resistance, the more will you feel frustration and impatience. And this is bound to affect the other, and increase the resistance even more. Moreover, it will be extremely useful to analyze the reason for your own frustration and impatience. It may be more than the good will to help. In some way your capacity may seem to be involved. Or the acceptance of the truth may have an urgency for you which is not realistic. Whenever such currents exist, a mutually negative effect is established, which worsens the inner problems in both. But finding what inner hidden role you play, so that this could become a problem for you, will be more than useful and beneficial, possibly even for both parties. If there were no negative or problematic tendencies in yourself, you could accept another person's limitations. You know that. Now, this is a general answer, applying to many.
The Guide
by Eva Pierrakos
1961
Copyright 1961, the Center for the Living Force, Inc.