The Process Of Meditation

By The Pathwork Guide

Greetings, all my friends. Love and blessings, help and inner strength are coming forth, to sustain you and help you open up your innermost being so that you can bring all levels of your being into life, thereby creating a beautiful wholeness with your entire being.

In this lecture I want to talk about meditation. Of course, I have spoken about it many times before. I have mentioned that there are many approaches to meditation. But this time I will speak about the act of meditation in a more comprehensive way, to help you use it more effectively and meaningfully. In order to really understand the dynamics, the meaning, and the process of meditation -- and hence to derive the maximum benefit from it -- you must be clear about some psychic laws I have discussed elsewhere in these lectures. For example, it is important to understand that three fundamental layers of personality must be involved if meditation is to be truly effective.

These three fundamental personality levels we may call:

(1) the conscious ego level -- with all the conscious knowing and willing that man has at his disposal,

(2) the unconscious egotistical child level -- with all its ignorance, its destructiveness, its claim for omnipotence, and

(3) the supra-conscious Universal Self -- with its superior wisdom, power, and love, and with its comprehensive understanding of the events in man's life.

In effective meditation the conscious ego level activates both the unconscious egotistical, destructive self and the supra-conscious superior Universal Self. A constant interaction must take place between these levels. In order to make this constant interaction possible, your conscious ego self must attain a tremendous amount of alertness and wakefulness..

The conscious ego must be completely determined to allow the unconscious egotistical self to reveal itself, to unfold, to manifest in awareness. As I said before, this is not as difficult nor as easy as it may seem. It is difficult exclusively, my friends, because you fear not being as perfect, as evolved, as good, as rational, and as ideal as you want to be -- and even pretend to be. You try so hard that the ego becomes convinced of its perfection on the surface of consciousness. This surface conviction is constantly counteracted by the unconscious knowledge that this is not so. The result is that secretly the whole personality feels fraudulent and terrified of exposure. It is an important sign of self-acceptance and growth for a human being to allow the egotistical, irrational, outrightly destructive child to manifest, and to acknowledge it with all the specific details of its expression. This alone will prevent the dangerous indirect manifestation -- with which the consciousness is not connected -- so that the undesirable results of this indirect manifestation seem to come from the outside. Meditation must deal with this aspect if it is not to be a lopsided endeavor.

The egotistical infant's anti-social desires and claims, convictions and attitudes must be exposed in exact detail. It seems hard to accept that there is something in you that is so very different from the way you want to be and from the way you think of yourself as being. Meditation must constantly encourage this self-revelation -- not only generally speaking, but primarily as to the specific daily situations you are involved in that are unpleasant or unsatisfactory.

The conscious ego must reach down and say: "Whatever is in me, whatever negativity and destructiveness is hidden in me, should be out in the open. I want to see it. I commit myself to seeing it, regardless of my hurt vanity. Wherever I am stuck, I want to be aware of how I deliberately refuse to see my negativity and how I therefore over-concentrate on the wrongs of others." This is the one direction of meditation.

The other direction must point toward the universal, higher self, which has powers that surpass the limitations of the conscious self. These higher powers should be called upon for the very same purpose, exposing the destructive little self so that its resistance is overcome. Ego will alone may be incapable of accomplishing this. But the ego can and must meditate to request the higher powers to help. The Universal Consciousness should also be asked for help so that your consciousness understands the expressions of the destructive infant correctly, proportionately, without exaggeration, and without going to the opposite extreme from before, when you were not aware of its existence at all. A person can easily fluctuate from an outer self-aggrandizement to a hidden self-demoting. When the lower self reveals itself, the person could fall prey to believing this destructive self to be the final, ultimate, sad reality. You must constantly ask the guidance of the universal self to help you see the full reality about revealing the egotistical infant.

When the infant begins to express itself more freely -- because the ego allows this and receives these expressions as an interested, open listener -- collect the material for further study. What reveals itself should be explored as to its origin, results, and further ramifications. What underlying misconceptions are responsible for the overt self-destruction, the hate, the spite, the malice, and the ruthless selfwill coming out? When the misconceptions are being recognized, guilt and self-hate diminish proportionately. What are the results of the momentary satisfaction of giving in to these destructive impulses? When the consequences are clearly worked through, the inner determination to be destructive weakens -- again, proportionately to the full understanding of the particular cause and effect. When this part of the pathwork is glossed over and taken for granted without particular and exacting insight, the task is only half done. Meditation must deal with the entire problem, step by step. Again, the interaction must be threefold: the ego must initially want it and must commit itself to it; it must reach in and let out the negative side; it must also ask for the help of the Universal Self in order to strengthen the consciousness for the further part of the work, the exploration of the underlying misconceptions and the heavy price to be paid for them. And then, again, the universal self must be allowed to help overcome the temptation to give in -- over and over -- to the destructive impulses. Such giving in does not necessarily happen in action, but in emotional attitudes.

This important aspect of meditation requires a great deal of time, patience, perseverance, and determination. Remember at all times that wherever you are unfulfilled, wherever there are problems, wherever there is conflict in your life, you should not concentrate with woe on others or on circumstances outside your control, but you should reach inside and explore the causes imbedded in your own egotistical childish level. Meditation is an absolute prerequisite for this. You must gather yourself calmly and quietly and seek the truth. Ask for an answer as to the causes that you contributed in this particular circumstance. In this state of mind peace will come to you, even before you fully understand. This truthful approach to life will already give you a measure of the peace and self-respect that were lacking as long as you held others responsible for what you have to suffer. I discussed these principles before, but most of my friends did not actively use them or sufficiently incorporate them in their meditation.

If you meditate in this way, you will discover a side of yourself that you have never known. The highest universal powers will communicate themselves to you for the purpose of discovering the most destructive, ignorant side -- which needs insight, purification, and change. By being willing to accept your negative self, the Positive Self will become more of a reality in you. You will increasingly experience it as your Real Self, so that despair about being bad, weak, or inadequate must fall by the wayside.

Many people meditate, but they neglect the two-sidedness of the endeavor, and therefore miss out on integration. They may indeed actualize some of the universal powers -- which indeed come into play wherever the personality is sufficiently free, positive, and open. But the unfree, negative, and closed areas are neglected and ignored in the one-sided meditational approach. The actualized universal powers will not, by themselves, enforce the integration with the undeveloped part of the self. The conscious ego self must determine this integration and fight for it, otherwise the universal self cannot get through to the blocked areas. Partial integration with the universal self may lead to even greater self-deception, because the consciousness is deluded by the actually existing partial integration with the divine powers, and becomes even more prone to overlook the neglected side. This creates a lopsided development.

The next step in meditation is to re-educate the destructive infant, that is now no longer entirely unconscious. This infant -- with its false beliefs, its stubborn resistance, its spitefulness, and its murderous rage -- must be re-oriented. However, this re-education cannot take place unless you are fully aware of every aspect of this destructive infant's beliefs and attitudes. This is why the first part of meditation -- the revealing, exploratory phase -- is so fundamental. It goes without saying that this phase is not something one gets over with, so that then the second, and later the third phase can begin. It is not a sequential happening. The phases overlap. Exploration, understanding, and re-education often go hand in hand, while at other times they have to be used separately. The feeling for timing must be developed. No rules can be made which relieve you of the need to feel into yourself so as to know what to use and when to use it. It is easy to look past that which is stagnant in you. Even if the first meditational approach is properly used and you are capable of seeing new vistas of the destructive child in you, the second aspect may be neglected. The understanding of the causes and effects may not be worked through. Or, perhaps, the aspect of re-education may not be fully undertaken. But when you do work through all these levels, then a tremendous strengthening of your whole self takes place. Several things begin to happen within your personality. In the first place, the conscious ego personality itself becomes stronger and healthier -- stronger in a good, relaxed sense. You become more determined and more aware. Your direction is more meaningful, your attention more focused, and you have a greater power of concentration. You feel much more self-accepting and understanding of reality. Unreal self-hate and self-disgust leave you. Equally false claims for specialness and perfection also go away. False spiritual pride and vanity, as well as false self-humility and shame disappear. Through the steady activation of the higher powers, the self feels less and less forlorn, helpless, lost, hopeless, or empty. The whole sense of the universe, in all its marvelous possibilities, reveals itself from within, and the reality of this wider world shows you the way to accept and change the destructive inner child. This gradual change enables the person to accept all his feelings and let the energy flow through his being. When the small, petty, and mean side is accepted -- with the understanding that it is not the "total" final reality -- then the beauty, love, wisdom, and infinite power of the superior self become more real. The higher self cannot lead to unrealistic arrogance, specialness, and self-idealization when the lower self is constantly being dealt with. This way leads to balanced development, integration, a deep reassuring sense of one's own reality, and to realistic self-love.

When looking at the truth in yourself -- and committing yourself to this truth -- becomes second nature, you detect a side in you which you were up to now too resistant to see. Simultaneously, you also detect this great, universal, spiritual power that is in you -- and that is, in fact, you. Paradoxical as it may seem, the more you can accept the mean little creature, the ignorant little infant in you without losing your sense of self-value, the more you will perceive the greatness of your innermost being -- provided you truly do not use the discoveries of the little self to beat yourself down. The little self wants to seduce the conscious ego and make it stay within the narrow confines of neurotic self-beating, hopelessness, and morbid capitulation -- which, in reality, always cover unexpressed hate. The conscious ego must prevent this by using what you know: by talking to this part of yourself, and by giving it all the knowledge of your conscious ego. If this is not sufficient, then request the powers beyond your consciousness.

In order to get to know both the lowest and the highest in you, you must realize the function and the capacity, but also the limitations, of your conscious ego. Your ego can develop the desire to see -- on a conscious level with all your heart -- the full truth of both the lowest and the highest in you and to want to give up destructiveness and change. But the ego consciousness cannot achieve this alone; it must turn for help and guidance to the Universal Self and wait patiently and with an open attitude about the way this help might manifest. Do not be impatient, doubtful, and full of preconceived notions. The more open you are, the faster the help will come, and the sooner you will recognize it. Help from the universal consciousness may come forth in an entirely different manner than your concepts may make room for -- and this might be a hurdle. This open, waiting, accepting, and positive attitude must be cultivated. It may not be possible to adopt it immediately, but recognizing its absence can be a constructive acknowledgment of where the self is at the moment.

There are many kinds of meditation. There is religious meditation, which consists of reciting specific prayers. There is meditation in which the main object is to increase the power of concentration. There is meditation in which spiritual laws are contemplated and thought through. There is meditation in which the ego is made totally passive and will-less, and the Divine allowed its own flux. All have more or less value. But my suggestion to you is to use the available energy and time for confronting that part of the self which destroys happiness, fulfillment, and wholeness. Because bypassing it can never create the wholeness the entity truly desires, whether this desire is conscious or not.

So far we discussed: (1) Recognition of the unconscious destructive egotistical self, (2) following through the underlying misconceptions, their meaning, their cause and effect, and the price to be paid in regard to the present destructive attitudes. The next phase is to re-orient and re-educate the destructive part of the self. What I will say here must be taken with great care, otherwise it will fail to communicate the subtleties involved. Re-education might very easily be misunderstood and might lead toward a renewed suppression of the destructive part that begins to unfold. You have to take great care by consciously and deliberately avoiding the repression of the destructive part without, however, allowing it to engulf you. The best attitude toward the unfolding destructive part is one of detached observation, of unharried, unjudging acceptance. As it unfolds, you must remind yourself that its truth and its attitudes are not your only truths and attitudes, that they are not absolute or final, and that, above all, you have the inherent power to change your negative self. The incentive to change may be lacking when you are not fully aware of the damage that your negative part is doing to your life when it goes unrecognized. It is therefore important, in this phase of meditation, to look for the indirect manifestations of your negative current. For example, how does unexpressed hate manifest in your life? Perhaps by feeling undeserving and afraid, or perhaps by inhibiting your energies. All this must be explored.

As I have said before, it is important to realize -- and remind yourself -- that where there is life there is constant change and fluctuation. There is constant movement, even if this movement is temporarily immobilized. Matter is momentarily paralyzed, hardened life stuff -- frozen blocks of energy. It can always be made to move again, but only consciousness can do it, for life stuff is filled with consciousness, as well as energy -- whether this energy is momentarily blocked and frozen, or whether this consciousness is momentarily dimmed does not matter. In meditation the part of you which is already conscious and moving spurs the blocked energy and dimmed consciousness into becoming mobile and aware again. The best way to do this is to allow the suppressed consciousness to express itself. Here you need a receptive attitude, not an attitude of fear that sees what comes forth as devastating and catastrophic. The panicky attitude toward one's own unfolding destructive infant does more damage than the destructive infant itself. You must learn to listen to it, and to calmly receive its expressions without hating yourself, and without pushing it away. Only when you have such an attitude can you understand its underlying factors, and, later, begin the process of re-education. When an accepting and understanding attitude exists, then it becomes possible for the conscious ego to assert its benign dominion over the violently destructive and stagnant psychic matter. As I said many times, you must be kind, firm, and deeply determined against your own destructiveness. You have to identify with the destructiveness and yet you have to be detached from it. You have to realize that it is part of you and you must also realize that there is another part of you that can have the final word, if you so choose. You have to widen the limitations of your conscious ego expressions by realizing that you can say at any moment: "I will be stronger than my destructiveness and will not be hampered by it. I determine that my life will be at its best and its fullest, and that I will overcome the inner blocks that make me want to remain unhappy. My determination will give me the power which will enable me to experience more and more bliss as I let go of the doubtful pleasure of being negative, which I now fully recognize." This is the task of the conscious ego. As this is accomplished, the powers of guidance, wisdom, strength, and a new inner feeling of love and penetration of the universal self will come forth.

Re-education also depends on the efforts of the conscious ego -- its instructions and its dialogue with the ignorant child -- as well as on the intervention and guidance of the universal self. Each, in their own way, will effect a gradual growing of this infant. The ego must determine its goal: to change the consciousness of the negative inner child; it must want this and commit itself to it; it must know that this is its task. But here, again, accomplishment of this goal is made possible by the influx of the spiritual aspect of the deeper personality, which must be deliberately activated. You must be conscious of an active part which asserts its desire, its goal, and its power over the negative aspects. It leads the dialogue and calmly but firmly instructs the ignorant child. And you must also develop a receptive part, which patiently awaits the final -- but always gradual -- manifestation of the universal powers which bring about this inner change. The change brings resiliency, new reactions, and good feelings -- where they were negative or dead. Rushing and pressuring the resisting part is just as useless and ineffective as the direct refusal to budge. When the conscious ego does not recognize the fact that there is a part of the self which actually refuses every step toward health, unfoldment, and the good life, then a counter-active movement may be one of hurried, impatient pressure. Both derive from self-hate. When you feel yourself stymied and hopeless, it should be a sign for you to search for that part in you that says: "I do not wish to change. I do not wish to be constructive." Set out to find this voice. Through meditation, you can explore and let the worst in you express itself.

You can see here, my friends, how expressing the negative part, exploring it as to its meaning and cause and effect, and then re-educating it must be an alternating -- and often simultaneous -- constantly fluctuating process. You can also see how these three levels of interaction combine in the effort of purification and integration. The meditation process is, among other things, a constant voicing and articulation of what was hitherto not articulated. It is a threefold communication and confrontation -- from the ego toward the destructive self, and from the ego toward the universal self -- so that the universal self affects both the ego and the destructive self. Your own sensitivity will grow day by day so as to feel what is needed at any given moment of your evolutionary path.

Each day brings new tasks, exciting tasks, beautiful tasks. Your inner work should not be approached in a spirit of wanting to get it over with, as if life will begin only after this inner work is done. On the contrary, doing this work is "living" at its best. You may begin each meditation by asking yourself: "How do I really feel at this moment? In what respect am I dissatisfied? What is it that I may be avoiding to face?" Then you may request the universal spirit in you to help you to become aware of these particular answers, and then wait trustingly for what may unfold. Only when you become aware of a negative current can you have a direct confrontation with it. Then you can open a dialogue with it, ask it further questions, and then instruct it. With patience and determination, you can re-mold, re-orient stagnant psychic energy by the willingness to be totally honest with yourself, totally constructive, totally loving, and totally open. If you find an unwillingness to do this, then it is this very unwillingness that you must confront, explore, and re-educate.

This is the only meaningful way in which meditation can make your life focused toward the resolution of problems, toward growth, toward fulfillment, and toward unfolding your best potentials. When you do this, my friends, the time will come that trusting life will no longer be a vague, far-away theory that you cannot experience personally. Instead, you will be filled with confidence in life, as well as with self-love in the healthiest way, and your love for life will be based on realistic considerations and not on wishful thinking.

The constant paradoxes and opposites that you deal with in life will conciliate themselves. This is important, particularly in connection with meditation on this threefold interaction within you. I would like to discuss a few of these very important seeming paradoxes. For instance, let us examine desire versus desirelessness. Both are spiritual aspects and spiritual realities. Only in the dualistic, separated mind do they seem like opposites or paradoxes, so that this mind becomes confused -- not knowing what is "right" and what is "wrong". There must be desire in a human being, for only through your desire can you come to the fourth aspect of meditation: to expand your conscious concepts so as to create a new and better life substance, and therefore life experience. It is the creating part I spoke about in previous lectures. If you do not desire a better state of being, or more fulfillment, then you will have no "material" with which to create and mold the life stuff. Visualization of a fuller state, as opposed to a previous limited state, presupposes desire. These concepts must be built up with the conscious ego. The intervention and actualization of the universal consciousness must help create a more expanded state. But if there exists a dichotomy between desire and desirelessness, then you cannot grasp or feel the necessary attitude. Through desire you will believe in the new possibilities and reach greater states of fulfillment and self-expression. But if desire is tense, urgent, and contracted, then it forms a block. Such desire implies: "I do not believe that it can be," a doubt which perhaps exists due to an underlying "I really do not want it." (Or other misconceptions and unjustified fears, or else the unwillingness to pay the price.) Underlying denial creates too tense a desire. There exists a kind of desirelessness which says, as it were: "I know that I can and will have what I desire, even if it is not realizable right now and in the way I want it. I trust the universe and my own good will sufficiently to cope with the non-fulfillment of this desire."

What are the common denominators of healthy desire and healthy desirelessness that make meditation -- and indeed all life experience -- real and beautiful? First, the absence of fear and the presence of trust. If you fear the frustration, the non-fulfillment, and its consequences, then the tension of your soul movement will prohibit the fulfillment you want -- and you eventually might give up all desire. As a result, you will have a distorted, misunderstood, and wrong "desirelessness," which is created by a tense desire, which, in turn, is due to fear, which is due to the infantile belief that you will be annihilated if you do not have what you want. Hence you do not trust your ability to cope with non-fulfillment, and you are inordinately frightened of it. And the vicious circle goes around. The fear induces a cramp, and a denial of desire. These very subtle, obscure attitudes must be explored in your meditation, so that you can come to the stage of meaningful meditation: Expressing your desire with confidence that the universe is able to yield to you what you long for. You can deal with the obstacles on the way when you know that the ultimate state of bliss will be yours. Desire and desirelessness will no longer be paradoxes, but complementing attitudes.

Something similar happens with the apparent opposites of involvement and detachment. It seems paradoxical to postulate that both must exist in the healthy psyche. But this duality exists. If detachment is indifference -- because you are afraid to be involved and you are unwilling to risk pain and you are frightened of loving -- then "detachment" is a distortion of the real attitude. And if involvement means merely an expression of an over-tense will -- based on the fear of the infantile insistence to always have what you want immediately and unconditionally -- then the healthy, productive version of involvement is inverted.

I will now choose a third example of apparent opposites which if not distorted make one comprehensive whole. Let us take the inner attitude of activity and passivity. On the dualistic level these two seem to be mutually exclusive. How can you be both passive and active in a harmonious way? The right interaction includes both these inner movements. For instance, meditation, as I explained it here, must include both. You are active when you explore inner levels of consciousness -- both positive and negative; you are active when you commit yourself and struggle to recognize and overcome resistance; you are active when you question further and try to release the previously unadmitted destructive side; you are active when you have a dialogue and when you re-educate the infantile, ignorant aspects of yourself; you are active when you use your ego consciousness to activate the spiritual consciousness; and you are active when you create a new concept of life experience, as opposed to an old limiting one. When the ego deals with both "universes" to establish a connection, you are active. But you must also learn to passively wait for the unfoldment and expression of both these levels. Then the right blend of activity and passivity exists. The universal powers cannot come to fruition in a human being unless both active and passive movements exist.

These are very important concepts to observe within yourself and to use in order to understand where they are distorted and where they are functioning well. When the three-way interaction within yourself takes place, then there is always a harmonious blend between desire and desirelessness, between involvement and detachment, and between activity and passivity. When this happens, the destructive infant grows up. It is not killed or annihilated, it is not "exorcised." But its frozen powers resolve themselves into live energy, which you will actually feel as a new living force. This infant must not be slain, my friends. It must be brought to growth, so that it can be liberated and brought to salvation. By working toward this goal, you will steadily move closer to unifying the ego level and the universal self.

Meditate on this powerful material. Be blessed, be in peace, be in God.

The Guide
by Eva Pierrakos
May 8, 1970

Copyright 1970, the Center for the Living Force, Inc.

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